You know all those “seven things you must do to change your life”? Ignore them . . .

​I have been observing what it means to be happy for many years now. And one thing I have noticed of late is the veritable plethora of articles and blogs claiming the road to happiness, contentment, success (or whatever your goal may be) can be achieved through the application of “X” things or “Y” steps. X or Y equalling anything from three to one hundred.

​Incidentally for some reason a lot use the number seven which may come from its association as a lucky number in some cultures.

Actually there is one reason why we might be seeing so much more of this. Because apparently, according to a number of blogs about how to write good blogs (believe me there are a lot of these . . .) people more often click on titles that have a number in it.

Yes my title is provocative. “Ignore” probably isn’t the right word – what I am actually suggesting is you should ignore the “how” until you have understood the “what”. Another way of saying this is that to know where you are going in life you first need to know where you are right now.

​Think of a time when something great happened to you. You won a prize, gave a speech for the first time in front of a room full of people, entered and competed in a running event. These are just examples – think of a time in your life when you underwent change for the positive.

My example was running a half marathon. I was reasonably unfit, had a sedentary job behind a computer and had never run more than about 5km in my life. So after talking to some friends (ok some beer was involved) I decided to enter myself into an upcoming race. It was in 8 weeks and involved running 21km. Gulp! I set myself a training schedule, roped a friend in to do it with me and lo and behold in 8 weeks time I crossed the finish line. Not a particularly stupendous time – definitely in the last 20% of the field.

 But what an amazing feeling . . . In eight weeks time I had gone from being a pretty unfit person to being capable of running 21km without stopping (shuffling still counts as running in my book). And that was the ultimate buzz. The change I had undergone was dramatic. I remembered how I was and how unfit I felt. And most of all I remembered back 8 weeks ago to this person who had never contemplated doing a race like this and probably hadn’t imagined they were capable.

 So it wasn’t really the run that made me feel so amazing. It was the difference in how I felt and the change I had undergone. And I could remember that because, hey, 8 weeks wasn’t that long ago. How I had been feeling and living my life back then became my yardstick – a way of gauging how far I had progressed and what changes I had made in my life.

And this is my challenge to you. Take time right now to stocktake your life and how you are living it.  Your yardstick for the future new you . . .

Here’s something that helped me do my own stocktake . . . The “me” board is like a vision board in reverse. Its meant to characterise your life and how you feel – right now.

1. Get hold of a big piece of card. A2 size is 42cm by 60 cm - or go bigger if you can.
2. Now get a pile of magazines and newspapers. It doesn't matter so much what they are, just make sure you have a good sample of different types.
3. The aim of this exercise is to build a poster which points to how you are feeling right now. It will suit those of you who are creative - or who just can't get their head around stats and questionnaires.
4. You need to cut out and paste pictures, words, headlines or art that talks to your present state of mind. Be intuitive - if something you see feels right about how you are - don't think, get cutting.

Remember this isn't about who you want to be (that comes later). This is about who you are NOW.